10 Things men can do to get a second date
10 things you shouldif you want to get a second date
Getting a second date can be tricky because you’re not sure of how the other person feels and you don’t know how to broach the subject. This can cause awkward silences or both of you leaving without knowing where things will go. It can be a smoother transition if you make a good impression and let it happen naturally because if the date went well then she’s definitely going to make sure she sees you again. You have to be engaging and show her that you’re boyfriend material so that she enjoys being with you and you can help seal the deal by ending the night by making it clear you want a second date with her.
1) Make a good first impression
Making a good first impression is key if you want to get a second date because this sets the tone for the first one and is a large part of how she decides if you’re right for her or not. You want her to think you’re a great guy and feel an attraction towards you. This starts before you even meet so in the lead up to the first date you need to reply to her messages and tell her you’re looking forward to seeing her. Arriving on time is important and when you greet her you need to smile, make eye contact and introduce yourself. This puts her at ease and the first thing she notices about you is your positive attitude which is an attractive quality.
2) Freshen up
Giving yourself a quick freshen up can improve your chances of a second date because it makes you more visually appealing. Women want a man who takes care of himself so before your date you should get a haircut, shave, trim your fingernails and pick out a nice outfit to wear. She’s going to notice you made an effort to look nice for her and shows her that you take pride in your appearance. You look like the kind of man she wants to be with which makes her want to get to know you better.
3) Be enthusiastic
Enthusiasm is a great trait to show off because it ignites excitement and passion. You can be enthusiastic by smiling often, being supportive when she says something, holding up your end of the conversation, talking about something your passionate about and mentioning goals you have for the future. She wants a man who can be enthusiastic and cares about stuff because it makes you more interesting. She’s drawn to this attitude and it makes her feel more upbeat. It gives the evening a fun mood and makes her look forward to having a second date with you.
4) Get to know her
It’s a good idea to share a little bit about yourself but don’t dominate the conversation. You want to build a connection with her so share a few personal things but also spend time focusing on her and finding out what she cares about. You can ask her about her job, her hobbies, pets, goals and her friends. You want to be interested in her because it makes her feel like you genuinely care about who she is as a person.
5) Don’t brag about your accomplishments
It’s normal to be proud of your accomplishments and want to mention them but it’s easy to take it too far. You can talk about your accomplishments if they’re relevant to the conversation but don’t spend too much time talking about them. You may think it makes you seem like a go-getter but bragging too much can come across like arrogance. If you want a second date you need to stay humble about what you’ve done in the past and remember to talk about your future goals so she knows you have motivation.
6) Be confident
You need to be confident if you want to grab her attention and make her want you. It’s sexy to be with a strong, confident man and this attitude is going to ignite passion in her. This is a trait you need to show if you want a second date with her and have it happen naturally. Don’t be too confident because it can become aggressive which makes her uncomfortable. Start out by making eye contact, leading the conversation and thinking before you speak. At the end of the first date you can ask when you can see her again.
7) Act like a gentleman
If you want to be successful enough to get a second date you need to act like a gentleman. You have to live up to her expectations and show her that you’re boyfriend material. Be confident but polite, pull the chair out for her if you’re at a restaurant, don’t interrupt her and compliment her without being sexual. You want her to imagine how nice other dates with you would be and this can cause her to be the one who asks for a second date.
8) Don’t make it sexual
The worst thing you can do when you want a second date is to make it sexual too quickly. Women usually need time to get to know someone before they’re ready to take it to the next level so she probably won’t like it if you do anything more than light flirting. You can compliment her or be flirty but pay attention to her reaction and stop when you sense it’s the right time. This makes her feel comfortable around you because you respect boundaries.
9) Forget the past
You should never bring up your ex or the last date you went on if you want a second date. Doing this can make you complain about your ex or dating sites and this ruins the date. She doesn’t want to think about your past relationships and badmouthing others doesn’t make you look like a good guy. You should only briefly mention the past if it’s relevant, like if you’re going through a divorce or if you have children.
10) Follow up for a second date
You need to take the initiative if you want a second date because it’s expected that the man does this. She may be waiting to hear from you and doesn’t want to seem desperate so she won’t say or do anything which can make you think she’s not interested. Call her and say you had a great time and was wondering when she was free again because there’s a restaurant you’d like to take her to. This makes it clear that you want to see her again.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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