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When should you have sex in a new relationship?

When to have sex

How long should I wait to have sex in a new relationship? 1 date?, 2 dates?, 7 dates?

One of the most popular sex questions is when you should have sex for the first time in a new relationship. If you do it too soon then you seem like you’re only interested in sex but if you wait too long then it makes the other person think you’re not attracted to them. You need to pick the right moment so you can make the right impression because this will help the relationship last for the long term.

Having sex for the first time should never happen on the first date if it isn’t supposed to be a one time hook up. If you’re a man and you try to have sex on the first date then she’s going to feel like you only went out with her to get laid. If you’re a woman then it makes you look easy and he’s going to think you sleep with every guy on the first date. There are also drawbacks to having sex too soon because it can make you feel empty or unsatisfied because there isn’t an emotional connection between the two of you. For the first date there should only be a hint of intimacy to show there’s an attraction without going too far. This could be things like touching their arm during conversations, holding their hand and giving them a goodnight kiss.

Having sex on the second date is a bit better because it shows that you like the other person enough to go out with them again. It might still feel a bit rushed though because you’re still trying to get to know each other so it’s best to not go all the way yet. It’s awkward and nerve-wracking trying to make the first moves to sex so take your time and make sure the other person has the same feelings as you do. You could take the kissing further and make it more passionate but don’t go further than that. You want the other person to want you bad while also respecting you for showing restraint. The other person is probably waiting for the right time too and won’t be expecting to take things to the bedroom just yet.

Having sex for the first time should happen between the third and fifth date because this gives you time to decide if you actually like this person and want to take the relationship to the next level. You shouldn’t wait longer than the fifth date because then it might seem like you’re not attractive to the other person or aren’t sure about the relationship lasting. There is more you need to do other than waiting for the right moment. You need to discuss birth control because you don’t want a surprise pregnancy and you need to make sure that you decrease your chances of getting a disease by making sure you discuss your health status. When both of you are on the same page then it’s time to have sex for the first time.

Anytime between the third and fifth date is ideal because you can slowly build the anticipation while getting to know them better. When you know that you want to be with them let the moment happen naturally so that it’s an easy transition to the next step.

Author at Monkeys Reviews Australia
Emily is based in Sydney.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
Emily Scott

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