How to start dating multiple women without being shady (10 Honest ways)
You can have a lot of fun dating multiple women but it can quickly become a problem if you don’t do it in an honest way because feelings will get hurt and fights will happen. You can avoid this by being open about not practicing monogamy and having the right kind of attitude so you don’t accidentally send mixed signals. You need to know how to do these things so that you can be honest about your lifestyle and are able to live it in a safe, fun way.
1) Tell them you’re not into monogamy
When you’ve found someone, you’re interested in dating you need to tell them right away that you’re not into monogamy, even if you’re not currently seeing multiple women. They need to know this so they can decide if they still want to be with you before their feelings get too strong because if they find out later on they’re going to feel like you lied to them and this leads to fighting. This approach may mean it takes awhile to find the right women to date but this is something you need to accept if you want to be honest about what you’re doing.
2) Don’t make them feel special
It’s normal to try and make the person you’re dating feel special but if you’re with multiple women, you have to be careful about doing this. You can send mixed signals by making her feel special because she thinks you care about her more than the others and may be able to get you to commit to her. You can’t tell her that you love her or act too much like a boyfriend, instead keep an emotional distance and focus on it being a relationship based on having good sex.
3) Space out texts and hookups
When you first start dating someone new they may not be used to dating a guy like you and will expect more of your time instead of realizing that you need to spend time with the other women you’re seeing. You need to space out how often you text and hookup with each women so they learn not to expect you to always be around when they need your attention. You should try to make it about quality and not quantity so both of you can enjoy the time you have together without wanting more. You can do this by replying to necessary texts and treating them as an equal instead of just a hookup and make an effort to have good sex so that she’s satisfied too.
4) Be honest about dating someone else
If you want to be honest about your dating life then you can’t hide your activities from your current partners. When they ask how many other women you’re seeing tell them how many there are but don’t give too much information because the women deserve privacy. Have self-confidence when you say that you’re dating another woman and when you can’t see her because you have a date with someone else so she knows you’re serious and won’t change plans just to be with her.
5) Don’t act like a boyfriend
Acting like a boyfriend is something you should avoid doing when you’re dating multiple women because it can make thing more complicated. You have to remember that these relationships are more about having fun and good sex so don’t take things much further than that. Don’t say that you love them, avoid hanging out with their friends or meeting their family and don’t always be available when they need you. You have to make boundaries and stick to them so they know it’ll never progress beyond casual dating.
6) Flirt with other women
Flirting with other women in front of someone else takes a lot of self-confidence but you need to do this when necessary to make it clear that you’re interested in being with multiple women. When you’re on a date and you happen to see someone you’re attracted to you should lightly flirt with them, like smile and catch their eye or slip them your number. You need to be subtle about this because you don’t want to upset your date but this lets them know you meant it when you said you weren’t monogamous.
7) Never talk about marriage or children
Talking about marriage or children is something you should never do when you’re dating multiple women because you don’t know if or when you’re going to settle down with one of them. This is a topic women are usually interested in because they’re used to being in a relationship where they can think about a future together so when she brings it up you need to change the subject. Be honest and tell her that you don’t see marriage or children happening any time soon and that she should date someone else if that’s what she’s looking for.
8) Don’t make plans far in advance
Making plans far in advance is a bad idea when you’re dating multiple women because you don’t know if you’ll be busy with one of your other lovers or if you’ll still be dating this person later on. It’s difficult to balance multiple relationships and sometimes the women get tired of you seeing others and will break up with you so stay in the moment. You can plan a date night or a weekend away in advance but only by a week or two, longer than that and you can have some scheduling problems that will cause issues.
9) Ask her about other men
Expecting her to be monogamous when you’re dating multiple women is shady and you shouldn’t do this. You need to be clear that it’s okay for her to date other guys and you can casually slip this idea into her mind by asking her about her weekend plans or if she’s met any interesting guys lately. When she says “No.” you can say that she should get out into the dating scene and meet someone that she can see when you’re too busy.
10) Keep your lives as separate as possible
When you’re dating multiple women you need to keep your lives separate as much as possible otherwise it can cause big problems. Only tell them information they need to know and don’t share personal information like finances or invite them to meet your friends or family. They may try to guilt you into being a bigger part of their life so you need to be strong and show self-confidence by sticking to your boundaries because if you get too involved with them it’s going to be harder to date other women.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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