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The 20 best conversation starter topics for a first date

Topics for your first date
With today’s date scene you need to flirt but also be good at conversation so they know you’re taking an interest in them and not just looking for an easy hookup.  When you’re meeting people on dating sites you need to have some conversation starters ready so you can avoid awkward silences and have the first date go as smoothly as possible.

1) What’s your dream date?

You can use this conversation as a way to flirt and get ideas about your next date. Ask them to describe their dream date and when they ask why or are a bit shy you can flirt by telling them that you want to know so you can help make their dreams come true.

2) Would you rather live in the present or the future?

Instead of having a boring date focused on today’s date you can make things more interesting by playing a game like deciding whether you’d rather live in the past or in the future.

3) What movie can you watch again and again?

You can use this conversation topic as a way to set up a second date with them. You can talk about your favourite movies and remember what they say so you can have a movie night at home where you watch theirs.

4) Where would you go for your dream vacation?

You can find out what type of person they are by asking about their dream vacation because it shows just how adventurous they really are.

5) What’s your favourite word?

This can be a good way to break the ice because it’s a question they won’t be expecting and it might make them laugh as they come up with different words before finding one that’s their favourite.

6) Tell me a secret about yourself.

A secret about yourself
Dating sites are mostly focused on sex and you feel like you know someone from them because of the intimate messages you share but that’s not really them. Get to really know them by asking them to tell you a secret and see just how much they’re willing to share.

7) What are you most proud of?

Show them that you’re interested in them by asking them something personal like what they’re most proud of. This will make them feel good because it shows a positive side of them and brings back happy memories.

8) What’s the happiest moment of your life?

This will also make them feel good because it’s focusing on something positive which will give the date the right mood. You can share happy memories with them and feel like you’re making a bond.

9) What’s your dream job?

Talking about your dream job can show you what their personality is like because they might go for something fun like a zookeeper or something serious like a doctor.

10) What’s your perfect weekend?

Everyone has an idea of their perfect weekend and it can be nice to fantasize about it because it takes you away from the nervousness of a first date. You can remember this and later on in the relationship you can give them their perfect weekend.

11) What are some of your hobbies?

If the first date goes well then there’s a chance you might start dating them seriously so it’s good to know how they like to spend their time. Knowing what their hobbies are will give you an idea of what to expect and whether you have something in common.

12) What makes you laugh?

Knowing what makes them laugh can bring you closer together because you can tell a funny story they’ll like or you can take them to a movie they’ll enjoy. This will make the date fun and they’ll want to spend more time with you.

13) What’s on your bucket list?

Dating sites like adulfriendfinder are full of interesting people and getting to know them is part of the fun. Asking them about their bucket list can keep the mood light while also letting you get to know them better because it tells you what their dreams are and what their personality is like.

14) Where do you see yourself in five years?

This is a good way to find out what their goals and priorities in life are and you’ll want to know these things if you’re planning on dating them long term.

15) Do you have any pets?

You might want to know if they have any pets because you have some yourself or maybe you have allergies and need to know if they’re someone you should be dating. If both of you are animal lovers then you can talk about your pets and plan a date where you can bring your pets along like a picnic at a park.

16) What’s your favourite meal to cook?

Finding out what their favourite meal to cook tells you if they like spending time in the kitchen or if they’re the type of person who likes to eat out. This will also let you know what kind of food they like so you’ll have a better idea of which restaurants to take them to.

17) What annoys you the most?

Asking this will get them to show their negative side and see how nit picky they can be which might be awkward but you can do it in the right way so it’s not that bad. You can jokingly say what annoys you the most then ask them about their pet peeves.

18) Tell me about your best friend.

Your best friend
If you keep dating them you’ll meet the people who are closest to them so you need to find out what they’re like and if you’ll get along with them. Ask your date about their best friend because everyone has one of those and it’s safer than asking about family because sometimes there’s problems there.

19) What did you want to be when you grew up?

Talking about childhood dreams like what you wanted to be or the things you wanted to do can add a touch of nostalgia to the night and put you in a more relaxed mood. Share funny childhood stories and show them your playful side so they can see that you’re a fun person.

20) What was the last concert you went to?

Music can be something you bond over if you have a similar taste in singers or bands so ask them about what they like to listen to and what was the last concert they went to.

Author at Monkeys Reviews Australia
Emily is based in Sydney.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
Emily Scott

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