9 Things to know about dating an independent woman
Dating an independent woman is a different experience than dating a woman who is clingy and is looking for a man to take care of her. You need to know what these differences are so you know what to expect and avoid doing something that could ruin the relationship, like smothering her with too much affection or not pulling your weight. You need to understand that she’s going to be honest about how she feels and what she wants and she’s not going to be happy if you’re not as independent as she is. Having an idea of what to expect can help you start the relationship on the right foot and make all of the right moves so it’s a happy and long lasting one.
1) She is upfront about her feelings for you
She’s upfront about her feelings for you and this can come across as surprising or aggressive if you’re not expecting it. She doesn’t mean for it to come across this way, she just wants to be clear that she’s interested in having you as a sexual partner and maybe even a boyfriend. She wants to know right away if the feel the same for her and will flirt with you and tell you that you better commit to her before she finds someone else.
2) She may only want a sexual partner
Sometimes having only a sexual partner is easier than having a boyfriend because there’s no commitment and you can be selfish with how you spend your time. This type of arrangement works well for an independent woman because she gets her sexual needs satisfied while still having her freedom. If she asks you if you’re interested in having this type of relationship with her you shouldn’t take it personally and think she doesn’t really like you because this decision has nothing to do with you, it’s just her preference and it works with her lifestyle.
3) She knows what she wants during sex
Some women are shy with their sexual partner and don’t like expressing themselves or ask what they want to do. This shyness isn’t a trait that an independent woman has, she knows what she wants and is going to tell you how to pleasure her. She’s open-minded and sees being adventurous in the bedroom as a fun learning experience so don’t be nervous about asking her to try something new.
4) She doesn’t want you to look after her
Men tend to think women want a man to look after them and will automatically act protective and helpful towards their girlfriend. Being protective and helpful are good traits but an independent woman is going to be offended if you go overboard with that behaviour. She finds it smothering and will quickly end the relationship if you don’t stop treating her this way. She doesn’t want you to treat her like she’s incapable, she wants a man who shows affection and helps her when she needs it but also knows when to leave her alone to deal with things.
5) She tells you when there’s a relationship problem
When you’re dating an independent woman you’re going to realize that she’s not the type to ignore relationship problems and hope they go away. She’s going to tell you right away what’s bothering her and it’s going to be an issue that the two of you will work out immediately. She acts this way because she wants to find out if the relationship is worth saving or if she should move on because an independent woman isn’t scared of being single. When you’re dealing with the problem she’s going to be calm and look at every angle because she doesn’t want to rush into a decision and wants to be sure that nothing is overlooked.
6) She’s not in a rush to get married or have children
Getting married and having children are both life changing circumstances that an independent woman isn’t going to rush into. You can’t expect your relationship with her to eventually lead to marriage or children and if these are important to you then you need to talk to her about it so you can find out how she feels having this future life with you. These are things she’s going to spend a lot of time thinking about and how they will fit into her other life goals. If she feels like it’s not for her then she’s going to be honest about it and there’s nothing you can do to change her mind.
7) It’s hard for her to talk about her problems
It’s hard for an independent woman to talk about her problems because she’s used to dealing with them on her own and usually she only talks to her boyfriend about problems that affect the relationship. This can make you feel like she’s not comfortable with you or doesn’t trust you but she’s keeping her distance as a way of maintaining her independence. You need to accept this is a part of who she is and be supportive of her behaviour while also telling her that you love her and that she can talk to you whenever she needs to.
8) She wants time by herself
Alone time is important to an independent woman because it feels comfortable and natural to her. It doesn’t mean that she misses being single and this desire is something you need to accept. It doesn’t matter how much you love her or how much affection you give her she still wants to spend time by herself. She enjoys being in a relationship with you but she also likes being able make decisions without consulting you as well as going on a weekend mini break by herself or with a couple of girlfriends. You’re an important part of her life but she’s not going to make her whole life revolve around you.
9) She expects a partnership
Some men cling to old fashioned ideas about what they expect from a girlfriend, not only do they want a sexual partner they also want a woman who looks after them and takes care of the housework. An independent woman has very different expectations, she expects a relationship to be an equal partnership. You need to be as independent as she is and be okay with doing your share of errands and housework as well as spending time away from to do things that interest you, like spending time with friends. The two of you need to find a balance between being a couple and being independent individuals.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
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