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The 11 biggest mistakes men make when dating after divorce

Feeling too Anxious when DatingDating after divorce isn’t easy because not only are you dealing with the after effects of a major break up but you’re also trying to move forward with your life. It’s probably been awhile since you last dated and you’re going to be anxious which can lead to you making mistakes like going after younger women or forgetting to be romantic.

1) Feeling too anxious

You’ll be too overbearing because you want her to like you and this will make her uncomfortable. You need to tell yourself that everything will be fine and if this date doesn’t work out then there’s lots of other women out there who would love to meet a guy like you.

2) Showing their lack of confidence

After a divorce you’re going to struggle with confidence because you’re going to feel like you’ve failed at something important. You won’t know how to make sure that your next relationship is successful and you’ll wonder if you’re going to end up alone which makes you nervous about introducing yourself to a woman you find attractive. If you don’t show confidence then she might think you’re not serious about going out with her and she’ll turn you down.

3) Badmouthing their ex

When you find someone you’re interested in you’re going to spend time getting to know them better and your divorce might be mentioned. Keep your anger and bitterness to yourself because it’s not going to look good if you badmouth your ex in front of a woman you’re trying to impress. It also makes her think there’s drama so briefly mention your divorce then move on with the conversation.

4) Talking about money issues

After a divorce your financial status is going to be very different because of paying alimony and child support and women don’t want to date a guy who’s always complaining about money. Keep your financial problems to yourself and remember that dating costs money so put it into your budget. Offer to pay for her on dates and take her to places that you can afford so it’s not an issue that you’re worrying about.

5) Thinking everyone wants to hookup

Men tend to see dating sites like AdultFriendFinder as an easy way to find younger women who just want to have sex and will send the same message to everyone asking if they want a hookup. Some women do but there are also ones who want a serious relationship so you need to decide what type of women you want and only go after those otherwise you’ll end up wasting your time. Make it clear what you’re after and only message women who show an interest because the ones who don’t reply back won’t change their mind.

6) Not dealing with the emotions from divorce

Women don’t want to deal with drama, especially if it’s at the beginning of a relationship so you need to make sure you’ve dealt with the emotional fallout from the divorce so you can start dating with a positive attitude. If you’re still dealing with the divorce then don’t rush into dating and only start looking for someone when you’re sure you can be outgoing, polite and caring because this will attract more women.

Getting many dates

7) Juggling too many commitments

If you have children then you need to figure out when you have time to date because they need to be your top priority and you’ll also need to find time for everyday things like work, grocery shopping and other commitments. Women won’t stick around if you can’t find a way to balance your time and make them feel like they’re a part of your life so spend time single and learn how to take care of things then date when you know you can handle it.

8) Wanting things to be perfect

You’re going to want your next relationship to be perfect because you won’t want to go through another break up and this can lead to you trying to take too much control. If a woman doesn’t seem interested then don’t try to make her go out with you by acting like you’re the right guy for her and when you do meet a woman don’t plan the entire date. Ask her where she’d like to go, be willing to compromise and don’t get upset if the date doesn’t go as planned because you can always go out with someone else.

9) Forgetting about romance

Women love guys who are romantic so you need to remember all the little things that you did to make your ex fall in love with you. You’re starting over so don’t treat your date like a stranger or like it’s a casual get together because women want more. They want you to be on time, maybe bring flowers, open doors and take a genuine interest in them. Don’t rush into sex and show her that you’re attracted to her as a person so she feels special and will make an effort to make the relationship work.

10) Expecting all women to be like their ex

All women are different so don’t go into dating with the idea that everyone you meet will be like your ex and it’s just a matter of time before they leave you. You need to see each woman as an individual and be open-minded because this will make dating more successful since you won’t be sending negative vibes with your actions and comments that could turn women off.

11) Going after younger women

Going after younger women sounds like fun but it’s better to keep your options open because you might not get just nights of hot sex with them. Younger women might think there’s going to be drama with the ex-wife or your children or that you’re using her as a rebound date so she won’t date you. She might also be thinking about looking for a man to marry and have a family with and you might not want to be in that type of situation.

Author at Monkeys Reviews Australia
Emily is based in Sydney.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
Emily Scott

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