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10 Signs the woman you’re dating is definitely playing games

She is Playing Games

Dating someone who is playing games with you is a toxic relationship and you don’t want to be in that situation. Some women don’t do it on purpose but others know what they’re doing and don’t care. They’ll show you disrespectful behaviour, show signs of cheating to get you worked up and see you as someone who’s just there to look after them. You need to know when someone is playing games with you so you can decide if this is what’s happening to you.

1) She can’t be bothered to text or call

It’s normal to go through busy spells and not have time to text or call someone back but if your girlfriend is constantly doing this then she’s playing games with you. She’s not texting back because she wants you to know that she’s not interested enough in you to make an effort and you need to be the one who chases after her. This is disrespectful behaviour and shows you that she’s not invested in the relationship.

2) She never tells you what she’s doing

Avoiding you

Never telling you what she’s doing is one of the more common signs of cheating because she doesn’t want you prying into her private life. She’s hiding something from you and the best way to stop you from finding out what it is going on is to keep you at a distance. When you ask where she’s going she’ll be vague and say she’s hanging out with her girlfriends or she’ll change the subject. You’re going to start being suspicious and when she does this to you, you need to look for other signs of cheating because she may be playing games with you.

3) She shows you disrespectful behaviour

When someone loves you they won’t deliberately show you disrespectful behaviour because they care about you and don’t want to embarrass or hurt you. Disrespectful behaviour includes making fun of you, not listening to you, making decisions without asking for your opinion and comparing you to her ex. She’s acting this way because she’s playing games with you and seeing how far she can push you. You don’t need to put up with this and shouldn’t accept being treated this way.

4) She flirts with other guys

Flirting with other guys

Flirting with other guys is disrespectful behaviour and is one of the signs of cheating. She’s flirting with other guys to make you jealous and if she is cheating then it may be a way for her to cover up what she’s doing. She’s hoping that by flirting openly with other guys you’ll think that’s just who she is and she won’t take it further than flirting because she’s in a relationship with you. She’s playing games with your emotions and if you ever do accuse her of cheating she’ll point out that you’ve always known she liked other guys.

5) You always pay for everything

Paying for everything is a big sign she’s playing games with you and is a gold digger. It’s still expected in most places that the man will pay for the first date or two then the woman starts paying her way but if she’s using you then she won’t even offer to pay. She’ll wait for you to pay the bill and over time she’ll start asking you for more things, like gas money, gifts or help paying her bills. She’s going to keep on playing games with you until you’re broke or break up with her.

6) She cancels dates at the last minute

When your date is canceled

Canceling a date will happen occasionally because things come up but when she cancel dates often and at the last minute then she’s showing you disrespectful behaviour. She’ll give you excuses for why she keeps having to cancel dates but the fact is she thinks she has better things to do than spend time with you. If she cared about making the relationship work she’d cancel her other plans and keep the ones she made first with you and if it was something important then she’d let you know right away instead of leaving it until the last minute.

7) You’re always helping her

A healthy relationship involves supporting each other and giving a helping hand when it’s needed but a relationship where she’s playing games is one that involves you always helping her and she never does anything for you. She likes to play the damsel in distress and will ask you to help her with even the littlest thing because she doesn’t see you as an equal partner she sees you as someone she’s sleeping with in exchange for being looked after.

8) She leaves you out of plans

Living you out of plans

Leaving you out of plans will happen now and again because she’ll want to spend time with her friends or have some space from you but deliberately leaving you out of important plans isn’t right. You should be included in events like birthday celebrations, her family events where it’s appropriate for you to go to or nights out with her friends when it’s a group event. She’s playing games by not inviting you because she knows it’ll hurt your feelings.

9) She acts differently in public

Treating you one way in private and another way in public is a definite sign that she’s playing games with you because it’s not normal to quickly change behaviour like that. If it’s something minor like not being as affectionate then it’s okay because that may make her feel uncomfortable but if it’s big changes like not making it clear your her boyfriend or belittling you in front of people then she doesn’t care about presenting as a happy, loving couple since that’s not how she feels about you.

10) She pulls away when you get too close

Pulling Away

Pulling away when you get too close could be her trying to figure out how she feels or it could be her playing games because she finds it fun to make you chase after her. You’ll know it’s the latter if it’s something she does all the time or if she jokes about how crazy you are for her. She’s having fun with you and has no intention of taking the relationship to the next level.

Author at Monkeys Reviews Australia
Emily is based in Sydney.
She is working as writer for diferent websites. She has published many hand-books about adult dating and relationships.
Emily Scott

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